“If You Don’t Feel You’re Getting Enough Out of a Negotiation, Nibble for More at the End” by Roger Dawson

Power negotiators know that by using the Nibbling Gambit, you can get a little bit more even after you have agreed on everything.  You can also get the other person to do things that she had refused to do earlier.

Car salespeople understand this, don’t they?  They know that when you get on the lot, a kind of psychological resistance has built up to the purchase.  They know to first get you to the point where you’re thinking, “Yes, I’m going to buy a car.  Yes, I’m going to buy it here.”  Even if it means closing you on any make and model of car, even a stripped down model that carries little profit for them.  Then they can get you into the closing room and start adding all the other little extras that really build the profit into the car.

So, the principle of Nibbling tells you that you can accomplish some things more easily with a Nibble later in the negotiations.

Children are brilliant Nibblers, aren’t they?  If you have teenage children living at home, you know that they don’t have to take any courses on negotiating.  But, you have to – just to stand a chance of surviving the whole process of bringing them up because they’re naturally brilliant negotiators.  Not because they learn it in school, but because when they’re little, everything they get, they get with negotiating skills.  When my daughter, Julia, graduated from high school, she wanted to get a great high school graduation gift from me.  She had three things on her hidden agenda. 

Number one, she wanted a five week trip to Europe. Number two, she wanted $1200 in spending money.  And, number three, she wanted a new set of luggage.

She was smart enough not to ask for everything up front.  She was a good enough negotiator to first close me on the trip, then come back a few weeks later and show me in writing that the recommended spending money was $1200, and got me to commit to that.  Then right at the last minute she came to me and said, “Dad, you wouldn’t want me going to Europe with that ratty old set of luggage, would you? All the kids will be there with new luggage.”  And, she got that too.  Had she asked for everything up front, I would have negotiated out of the luggage and negotiated down the spending money.

What’s happening here is that a person’s mind always works to reinforce decisions that it has just made.  Power negotiators know how this works and use it to get the other side to agree to something that he or she wouldn’t have agreed to earlier in the negotiation.

Why is Nibbling such an effective technique?  To find out why this works so well, a couple of psychologists did a study at a racetrack in Canada.  They studied the attitude of people immediately before they placed the bet and again immediately after they placed the bet.  They found out that before the people placed the bet, they were uptight, unsure and anxious about what they were about to do.  Compare this to almost anyone with whom you negotiate:  They may not know you, they may not know your company, and they certainly don’t know what’s going to come out of this relationship.  Chances are they’re uptight, unsure and anxious.

At the racetrack, the researchers found out that once people had made the decision to go ahead and place the bet that suddenly they felt very good about what they had just done and even had a tendency to want to double the bet before the race started.  In essence, their minds did a flip-flop once they had made the decision.  Before they decided, they were fighting it; once they’d made the decision, they supported it.

If you’re a gambler, you’ve had that sensation, haven’t you?  Watch them at the roulette tables in Atlantic City or Vegas.  The gamblers place their bets.  The croupier spins the ball.  At the very last moment, people are pushing out additional bets.  The mind always works to reinforce decisions that it has made earlier.

So, one rule for Power Negotiators is that you don’t necessarily ask for everything up front.  You wait for a moment of agreement in the negotiations, then go back, and Nibble for a little extra.

You might think of the Power Negotiating process as pushing a ball uphill, a large rubber ball that’s much bigger than you.  You’re straining to force it up to the top of the hill.  The top of the hill is the moment of first agreement in the negotiations.  Once you reach that point, then the ball moves easily down the other side of the hill.  This is because people feel good after they have made the initial agreement.  They feel a sense of relief that the tension and stress is over.  Their minds are working to reinforce the decision that they’ve just made, and they’re more receptive to any additional suggestions you may have.

Always go back at the end to make a second effort on something that you couldn’t get them to agree to earlier.

Look out for people Nibbling on you!

There’s a point in the negotiation when you are very vulnerable, and that point is when you think the negotiations are all over.

I bet you’ve been the victim of a Nibble at one time or another.  You’ve been selling a car or truck to someone.  You’re finally feeling good because you’ve found the buyer.  The pressure and the tension of the negotiations have drained away.  He’s sitting in your office writing out the check.  But, just as he’s about to sign his name, he looks up and says, “That does include a full tank of gas, doesn’t it?”

You’re at your most vulnerable point in the negotiations, for these two reasons:

1. You’ve just made a sale, and you’re feeling good.  When you feel good, you tend to give things away that you otherwise wouldn’t.
2. You’re thinking, “Oh, no.  I thought we had resolved everything.  I don’t want to take a chance on going back to the beginning and re-negotiating the whole thing.  If I do that, I might lose the entire sale.  Perhaps I’m better off just giving in on this little point.”

So, you’re at your most vulnerable just after the other person has made the decision to go ahead.  Look out for people Nibbling on you.  Making a huge sale has excited you so much that you can’t wait to call your sales manager and tell her what you’ve done.  The buyer tells you that he needs to call purchasing and get a purchase order number for you.  While he’s on the phone, he puts his hand over the mouthpiece and says, “By the way, you can give us 60 days on this, can’t you?  All of your competitors will.”  Look out for people Nibbling on you.  Because you’ve just made a big sale, and you’re afraid to reopen the negotiations for fear of losing it, you’ll have to fight to avoid the tendency to make the concession.

Countering the Nibble when the other person does it to you is essential.

The Counter Gambit to the Nibble is to gently make the other person feel – cheap.  You have to be very careful about the way you do this because obviously you’re at a sensitive point in the negotiation.  You smile sweetly and say: “Oh, come on, you negotiated a fantastic price with me.  Don’t make us wait for our money too.  Fair enough?”  So, that’s the Counter Gambit to the Nibble when it’s used against you.  Be sure that you do it with a big grin on your face, so that they don’t take it too seriously.

So, consider these points when you go into negotiations:

• Are there some elements that you are better off to bring up as a Nibble, after you have reached initial agreement?
• Do you have a plan to make a second effort on anything to which you can’t get them to agree the first time around?
• Are you prepared for the possibility of them Nibbling on you at the last moment?

Power Negotiators always take into account the possibility of being able to Nibble.  Timing is very critical-catching the other parties when the tension is off and they’re feeling good because they think the negotiations are over.

On the other hand, be looking out for the other side Nibbling on you at the last moment, when you’re feeling good. At that point, you’re the most vulnerable and liable to make a concession that half an hour later, you’ll be thinking – why on Earth did I do that?  I didn’t have to do that.  We’d agreed on everything already.

Key Points to Remember:

• With a well-timed Nibble, you can get things at the end of a negotiation that you couldn’t have gotten the other side to agree to earlier.
• It works because the other person’s mind reverses itself after it has made a decision.  He may have been fighting the thought of buying from you at the start of the negotiation.  After he has made a decision to buy from you, however, you can Nibble for a bigger order, upgrade product, or additional services.
• Being willing to make that additional effort is what separates great salespeople from merely good salespeople.
• Stop the other person from Nibbling on you by showing her in writing the cost of any additional features, services or extended terms, and by not revealing that you have the authority to make any concessions.
• When the other person Nibbles on you, respond by making him feel cheap in a good-natured way.
• Avoid post-negotiation Nibbling by addressing and tying up all the details and using Gambits that cause them to feel they won.

This article is excerpted in part from Roger Dawson’s book, Secrets of Power Negotiating, published by Career Press.

Roger Dawson is one of the country’s top experts in the art of negotiating.  Business people around the world respect him for his ability to improve their bottom line profits by teaching them and their people how to Power Negotiate.  Success Magazine calls him “America’s Premier Business Negotiator.”  Get your copy or downloadable Kindle version by clicking on the link below!